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How to Create Trust Between Mistress and Fetish Caller

Goddess Dallas — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 09:51:25 +0000

One thing that happens when a caller does multiple calls with just one phone sex Mistress is that the two develop an increased level of trust. Once that trust happens, the training sessions become much more intense and rewarding for the caller.

As a professional Mistress, I know how difficult it can be to create this level of trust. I ask lots of questions and carefully listen to the answers so I can learn enough about my caller to be able to decide what each training session will contain.

While I’m getting to know the fetish caller, I encourage him tell me what training he is seeking—orgasm denial, cuckold, humiliation, CBT, bondage, for example. From that, I begin very basic training sessions in that area while asking questions to learn more about my caller. It’s true that some callers do not respond to questions and only want to “get off.” For such callers, I may never be able to create a sufficient level of trust to give them a truly great session.

Other callers do understand the long term value of talking to the Mistress so she is better able to create truly unforgettable sessions. For those callers, trust is the reason the Mistress has the freedom to mold those great sessions.

The more information I obtain, the better I can direct sessions which increase the caller’s satisfaction. The more information I have and the more satisfied the caller becomes, the trust level increases exponentially. In my experience, the more information the caller gives me and the better I listen to that and process it, the better I can push his buttons to get closer and closer to that perfect fetish fantasy call.

I have such fun with the callers with whom I have developed this trust; in fact, I sometimes think I have almost as much fun as they do. When a caller hands over ultimate control to me, I know I have succeeded in weaving a web of trust around our sessions.

Recently, a long-time orgasm denial caller of mine decided it was time to trust me to take the lead and determine what the session will be each time he calls. We had experimented with body worship, cuckold, and some light spanking, all of which he enjoyed. With all that, I have a huge amount of information on which to draw in directing future sessions.

We discussed different ways things might go given his fetish interests and I learned a couple of new things. Yes, still listening. And I will continue to listen, of course. Since the trust is now there, I also give him assignments to do between sessions and deny him the right to stroke unless he is on the phone with me. Without trust, I could not effectively do these things.

In order to achieve great sessions, I need to maintain and increase the level of trust and continue to create great fetish fantasy sessions for my caller. To do this, I keep on communicating with my caller, asking more questions and listening carefully in order to learn even more. For those of you who wonder if there is more than just talking to someone so you can “get off,” try calling just one person for a while and developing that level of trust with her. You’ll find yourself experiencing better and better sessions and find out that there’s so much more to experience and enjoy.

What’s your fantasy? Everyone has at least one. Give me a call and we’ll talk about your favorite fantasy. The highlight of your call will be the great roleplay we do of your fantasy.

How about an audio made just for you—something hot, sexy and totally yours? Contact me for your custom audio. I’ll write and record a script for the fetish you describe, or I will record from a script written by you. See www.eroticaudios.com.

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Communication: The Key to a Great CBT Session

Goddess Dallas — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 23:33:51 +0000

CBT sessions are some of my favorite trainings. While toys and a knowledge of how to increase and decrease pain are certainly important, I’ve found that perhaps the one thing that makes the difference between an OK CBT session and a great one is communication.

As a responsible phone sex Mistress I must ask questions of the caller to determine his experience with CBT, the toys he has, and any taboos. However, I also need the caller to tell me about himself. Trust me; this is not about trying to extend the time of the call. I need this information in order to give you the best possible training, to see to it that you get that great session you’re looking for.

Why do I want to know your prior experience? That will tell me a lot about how high up the pain scale to start. It will also tell me about things that you’ve enjoyed in the past, things that didn’t work, and where you wanted more or less or just something different. Tell me right up front about your turn ons and turn offs. I need to know those.

I’ll use this information, plus your toys and various household items to create the great session that you want. So, make sure your CBT session is the best and communicate with me!

What’s your fantasy? Everyone has at least one. Give me a call and we’ll talk about your favorite fantasy. The highlight of your call will be the great roleplay we do of your fantasy.

Goddess Dallas – for sessions call 888-232-1467

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Sensual or Strict Guided Masturbation –Which Do You Prefer?

Goddess Dallas — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 08:04:58 +0000

Guys jack off; it’s a fact of life. From the time their hormones kick in, guys jack off every chance they get. Ever wonder why high school boys ask for so many hall passes to go to the bathroom? Well, it’s not because they have to pee.

Of course, when the hormones smooth out and the jacking off slows down. As guys (finally) mature, lots of them start looking for something to increase their wanking pleasure. Since the quantity is a thing of the past, they start looking for quality. That’s where guided masturbation and tease and denial may become options.

With a phone sex Mistress guiding them, men who want to work hard with their Mistress can achieve a level of pleasure through guided masturbation that they might never find on their own. Men willing to venture into tease and denial are also testing themselves to see just how long they can last without a release.

Phone sex Mistresses may train in a sensual or strict manner. Strict training is more in line with the harder-edged BDSM session, where the Mistress commands the caller and he does as she orders. There is very little playful talk and other interaction. This style suits the caller who is into the BDSM lifestyle.

The sensual style is more fun for the majority of today’s guided masturbation and T&D callers. These callers are rarely interested in the BDSM lifestyle. They seek the control of a Mistress but appreciate some of the sensual play and interaction from the vanilla side of phone sex.

I enjoy leading both strict and sensual guided masturbation and T&D sessions. Both are fun for me and for the callers; just tell me what it is you want before we get started.

What’s your fantasy? Everyone has at least one. Give me a call and we’ll talk about your favorite fantasy. The highlight of your call will be the great roleplay we do of your fantasy.

Goddess Dallas – for sessions call 888-232-1467

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CBT and Humiliation

Goddess Dallas — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 22:26:35 +0000

Cock and ball torture (CBT) is a painful torture training enjoyed by lots of my callers. I instruct them how to inflict various types of pain on themselves. As a responsible phone sex Mistress, I question first time callers as to prior experience with CBT, the kinds of toys and implements they have available for the session and if they have any limits or taboos. I start the pain at a low level and gradually increase it, with the most painful torture reserved for the very end of the call. The levels differ depending on what the caller is able to tolerate and still enjoy the session.

With phone sessions, the culmination of the session is for the caller to have an orgasm. While it may seem unusual to experience pain in order to achieve pleasure, callers who love CBT need pain in order to achieve the most pleasurable orgasm.

When working with a CBT fetishist who also wishes to experience humiliation, I get the caller to admit to me that he needs me to order him to torture himself in order to achieve a great orgasm. I make him admit that he knows most people do not need pain in order to achieve orgasms and that he has hidden his desire for pain for years. He has to tell me how afraid he is to tell his spouse or girlfriend about this perversion or how afraid he is to try to develop a relationship with any woman for fear she might find out and not understand.

This caller wants the Mistress to torture him so he can achieve with her what he cannot achieve in his regular life—a wonderful orgasm. He is unable on his own, or with his partner, to reach orgasm, something that the majority of men he meets do easily. So, he picks up the phone and calls a Mistress, someone he has never met, never will meet, and pays her to torture him into the glorious orgasm he so loves.

What’s your fantasy? Everyone has at least one. Give me a call and we’ll talk about your favorite fantasy. The highlight of your call will be the great roleplay we do of your fantasy.

Goddess Dallas – for sessions call 888-232-1467

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All Orgasms Are Not Created Equal

Goddess Dallas — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 21:38:49 +0000

Not much is more satisfying than a great orgasm, right? So why is it that you sometimes feel a little “cheated” after you’ve jacked off? It just wasn’t that great, a real disappointment. What causes that?

Very simple answer: orgasms are not created equal. Some will disappoint, some be just so-so, and others scale the heights of pleasure. The question is: how do you get that great feeling more often? Let’s talk.

Think about it. When the orgasm you had isn’t great, you jerk off again, and maybe again. The problem is, the more you jack off, the more desensitized your cock becomes, and the less great the orgasm is. Then you start to jack off even harder and, instead of things getting better, they get worse, much worse. This isn’t what you wanted at all and now you’re getting desperate. So is your wife or girlfriend.

In desperation, you finally do the first smart thing you’ve done since you started trying to fix the problem yourself—you call a great Masturbatrix (or phone sex Mistress). For those of you unfamiliar with the term, a Masturbatrix is a Dominatrix who specializes in orgasm denial and in guided masturbation.

I can hear you already. “Orgasm denial? I want to cum, I just want to feel better when I cum.”

OK, you’ve come to the right place. Several orgasm denial sessions will put you into the right place physically to enjoy that release when you receive permission for it. The same thing could be accomplished with guided masturbation, but it might take longer to achieve, depending on how closely you follow the instructions of your Masturbatrix. A skilled Masturbatrix will lead you up to the heights without you ever touching your cock or balls. She’ll deny you that release. Then, finally, she’ll permit it and you’ll know just how good that orgasm can be.

If you’re cumming more and enjoying it less, it’s time to call an experienced Masturbatrix like me to take control of that cock of yours for a while until you again achieve those body-shaking, gut-wrenching orgasms you love.

What’s your fantasy? Everyone has at least one. Give me a call and we’ll talk about your favorite fantasy. The highlight of your call will be the great roleplay we do of your fantasy.

Goddess Dallas – for sessions call 888-232-1467

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Why Call a Phone Sex Mistress in Order to Masturbate?

Goddess Dallas — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 08:03:13 +0000

From the time we approach puberty (and sometimes earlier), we masturbate. In fact, with all this experience, most of us figure we’re pretty good at it. Usually we masturbate alone, sometimes with a partner, but usually alone. Lots of guys call a phone sex Mistress to masturbate. So, what is the attraction of tease and denial and guided masturbation?

I believe the lure is giving control over the male orgasm to a phone sex Mistress. This leads the caller to last longer before cumming, giving more control over the ultimate release.

My tease and denial callers typically are looking for a fun time, but they want to be pushed hard toward the edge, teased and kept at that edge, moved back and forth to the edge and still not permitted to release. My callers love to brag about how long it has been since they had their last release and how many times they have edged without release in one session. Now, I love hearing all this because I know that without my telling them “No,” they would have released much earlier and be starting over again.

Guided masturbation callers, on the other hand, are usually looking for edging, sometimes several times, followed by that satisfying release.

My favorite edging technique is to get the caller to stroke lots of their erogenous zones, getting hot without ever touching the cock or balls. Once they’re hot and begging to do so, I permit them to touch the cock and balls. I also love to keep callers at the edge for a while, stroking steadily but staying right there. Then, just for fun, I make them move just a little bit closer without cumming. The explosion, when/if it comes, is much more satisfying.

What’s your fantasy? Everyone has at least one. Give me a call and we’ll talk about your favorite fantasy. The highlight of your call will be the great roleplay we do of your fantasy.

Goddess Dallas – for sessions call 888-232-1467

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What is the Difference between a Pro Domme and a Lifestyle Domme?

Goddess Dallas — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 22:28:04 +0000

Recently I’ve had a few callers who are confused about professional and lifestyle dominatrices. For some reason, they don’t understand that a professional dominatrix works as a dominatrix, typically making a very good living, but her lifestyle is rarely fetish-filled. On the other hand, a lifestyle dominatrix lives the lifestyle all the time, enjoying many fetishes with her partner; she may also make a living as a dominatrix. The lifestyle dominatrix lives in a dominant-submissive relationship with her husband or boyfriend and would be lost in a relationship where she couldn’t dominate her partner. The professional dominatrix leaves her dominatrix persona at work and lives in a much more give and take style than the lifestyle dominatrix.

Traditionally, sexual contact does not occur between a professional dominatrix and her clients. She does not touch their genitals and does not permit them to touch her. Humiliation and degradation, rather than sexual excitement, is the goal of the submissive who works with a professional dominatrix. Since laws in most states would consider sexual contact of any sort to be prostitution, a professional dominatrix is careful to avoid even the semblance of sexual contact.

With phone sex Mistress services and the internet, professional dominatrices have expanded their trainings to include sexuality in certain areas. Tease and denial, forced bi, cuckold fantasy and strapon fetishes all have a very strong sexual aspect. Because the trainings occur over the phone, rather than in person, prostitution laws are not an issue. Submissives now have a new, less expensive, outlet to seek out the humiliation and degradation they want along with a sexual release.

I decided to spend time discussing the differences because they are key to the type of trainings a phone sex Mistress is likely to prefer. I am a professional dominatrix; I do not have or want a submissive living with me, needing constant attention; I suspect that is true for any professional dominatrix. A lifestyle dominatrix wants and needs that submissive in her life.

What’s your fantasy? Everyone has at least one. Give me a call and we’ll talk about your favorite fantasy. The highlight of your call will be the great roleplay we do of your fantasy.

Goddess Dallas – for sessions call 888-232-1467

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Push Your Limits With Cock and Ball Torture

Goddess Dallas — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 23:20:18 +0000

Pain fetish trainings aren’t for everyone. However, if you love them, or have a feeling that you might, it’s definitely time to explore this niche fetish. I have callers who enjoy cock and ball torture, nipple torture and other types of pain. They look for pain, revel in it, and generally stay hard as a rock throughout the training. These callers always ask for more, not less, pain. Push them further, make it hurt more, increase the intensity. That’s what they want and that’s what they get. As a phone sex Mistress, I enjoy dealing out the pain to these callers and they are eager to receive it.

Ideally, the caller will have a selection of toys to aid in the torture. Nipple clamps (Japanese clover clamps are my favorites, I think), dildos, anal beads, ball stretchers, clothespins with firm springs, sounds, paddles and floggers, just to name a few. There are many more things to use.

I am also adept at teaching you to use every day household items to create the pain if you don’t have the toys mentioned above. For example, clothespins with the firm springs are a household item and very useful indeed. Candles and matches add some fun, as do ice cubes. Toothbrush, toothpaste and mouthwash are always fun, plus some Ben-Gay or IcyHot. Don’t have a dildo? Well there are vegetables that will suffice, or the handle of a wooden spoon or a plunger. Shoelaces can be used quite creatively in nipple and ball stretching. Workboots (or even athletic shoes) with laces provide marvelous ball weights and more weight can be added by filling them with canned food, bottles of water or soda and the like. A 9 volt battery can add an interesting aspect to the training. A belt can substitute for a paddle or flogger quite nicely. Though I prefer not to use them, many callers prefer to use Q-tips or other household items for urethral penetration instead of purchasing much safer (and more effective) sounds.

Does the idea of all this pain make you wonder if you’d be able to have that great release? No worries. Some callers are so excited at their climax that they shoot the metal sound out and across the room so it hits the wall.

Do I have fun with these trainings? I sure do. And so do my callers. If you’ve ever fantasized about pain fetish training, call me and try it out. Tell me it’s your first time. I’ll start you slowly.

Remember, a good pain fetish training will take time, so call when you have at least 45-60 minutes to devote to it.

What’s your fantasy? Everyone has at least one. Give me a call and we’ll talk about your favorite fantasy. The highlight of your call will be the great roleplay we do of your fantasy.

Goddess Dallas – for sessions call 888-232-1467

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Sensual Bondage – A Gentle Erotic Adventure

Goddess Dallas — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 01:35:45 +0000

As a phone sex Mistress, I’ve had callers be reluctant to try bondage because pain isn’t their thing. They like being helpless, at the mercy of a strong woman, but pain would change the tenor of the interaction. Well, no problem! Enter the world of sensual bondage.

Restraint is still the order of the day; but those restraints are much more likely to be silk scarves than chains or leather. A few callers who enjoy sensual bondage still prefer sensual leather manacles, so I like to talk with my caller first to find out his own turn-ons. That ensures a pleasurable experience for him.

The biggest difference is in the way I work with you while applying the restraints. Instead of an almost impersonal application of metal and leather restraints, I gently place a scarves around your wrists and ankles and secure them to bedposts. All the time I do this I’m also doing some erotic teasing. Sometimes a gag of soft silky fabric can be fun.

Then I select soft, sensual items that will drive you to an erotic high as I stroke them against your body. I keep my strokes light, tickling and teasing, always increasing the erotic tension. I tease you with my voice and promises of even greater sexual pleasure. Don’t expect me to give much attention to those blue balls or that dancing cock until your excitement is at its peak. You’ll love that orgasm when it finally arrives. Then I will gently untie the scarves and release you from your bonds.

When you’re ready for your erotic sensual bondage session, call me.

What’s your fantasy? Everyone has at least one. Give me a call and we’ll talk about your favorite fantasy. The highlight of your call will be the great roleplay we do of your fantasy.

Goddess Dallas – for sessions call 888-232-1467

Twitter: www.twitter.com/GoddessDallas

Fun With Cuckolds

Goddess Dallas — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 23:28:07 +0000

Let’s face it. Cuckold fantasies are fun calls. The caller frequently starts the conversation with me by saying he’s being cuckolded. He describes his inadequacies as a lover and his wife’s need for more than he can give her. If he doesn’t offer information on his wife, I ask for a bit more info on what she likes, how she finds her lovers and the like.

Now it’s time for me to begin weaving a story/roleplay for him. Using what he’s told me, I might create a scene where he gets his wife ready to go out to look for a lover for the night, or one where they both go out to look for her lover, or one where she calls and tells him she’ll be home late and he’d best behave himself. No matter how I begin the story, eventually the wife and her lover are together.

I create the slow seduction of the wife by the lover, sometimes with hubby in the room watching, and sometimes with him peeking through the door. The lovers stroke and take their time. The wife has numerous orgasms before her lover finally finishes. While describing this scene in great detail, I also remind the husband what a lousy lover he is and why she will never be without a lover to satisfy her.

At this point in the scene, I might include a little fluffing of the lover for the second go round, or perhaps some cream pie, or even both. I especially like to include fluffing when the husband seems reluctant to engage in bi-sexual activities. It’s something he does for his wife, not because he’s gay or bi-sexual (or is he?). After all, he’s not man enough to satisfy his wife. As a phone sex Mistress, it’s my pleasure to remind him of his inadequacies in any way I can.

What’s your fantasy? Everyone has at least one. Give me a call and we’ll talk about your favorite fantasy. The highlight of your call will be the great roleplay we do of your fantasy.

Goddess Dallas – for sessions call 888-232-1467

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